Anger is one of the only acceptable emotions we are allowed to have as men.
We are able to show this emotion while still being perceived as a strong man.
Fear can be one of the most debilitating emotions. It's based on a pretense of worry or anticipation of the future & usually feels anxious.
Anger can be a helpful tool to deal with fear if used in the right way as this energy can fuel movement.
However, instead many men unconsciously choose to use it to destroy themselves or others in very unhealthy, unproductive ways.... like little children throwing temper tantrums.
However, other men have been taught anger is wrong and so they shove down this emotion.
And instead turn to self loathing, procrastination, self destruction, numbing or distraction as a response to fear.
Sadness is also one of the most debilitating emotions. It's based on current or past past grief, trauma or losses.
It feels uncontrollably painful to feel that level of loss of control & vulnerability & has been forbidden to show or express this emotion since we will little.
The same applies for coping with sadness as fear as I mentioned above.
Emotional resilience training over time starts to bring conscious awareness to why we do what we do.
Instead of a stimulus - response - reaction we begin to develop the courage to LEAN IN to the uncomfortable emotions beneath the surface level emotion or reaction.
We learn new tools to regulate the nervous system when activated.
These new ways allow us to embody the authentic emotions we are feeling.
As we learn to embody these emotions we can feel what actions we need to boldly take.
Many times these actions result in expressing our authentic emotions & how we actually feel.
Or we can learn to feel that we are sad or fearful and consciously choose to turn that into anger in a way that creates movement to serve versus destroy.
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